Define Yourself

Inspiration is a beautiful thing. Inspiration causes ripple effects that individually we can never fully understand. I read my friends blog yesterday and her words inspired this blog. I hope this ripple effect can help more of you understand how important it is to define yourself.

Far too often we are concerned with the opinions of others. We worry that if we dare have a different opinion, a different view of the world, or a different outlook on living that we will be seen as inferior. I have good news and bad news for y'all. Bad news first. Bad news is you've probably spent most of your life feeling alone, feeling like you are so different from others that maybe just maybe you are doing this whole thing wrong. That's really shitty news, I know. The good news is that everyday you can choose to accept your own definition of yourself or others definitions of us.

Why do we choose others? Why do we allow others thoughts define our own? We have a major flaw in logic. We spend more time with us than anyone, why do others opinions effect our happiness? It's because we lack the self confidence to define ourselves. We rely on the words of others to be a boost to us, when in reality we have all of the keys to happiness in our own hearts. You don't have to do what me or my friend are doing, posting a literal definition of ourselves (If you want to that would be really sweet I would love to read some of yalls thoughts on yourselves) but at the very least, grab yourself a notebook and your favorite writing utensil and define yourself.


Here we go:

I am 26 Years old. I have an obsession with music. I feel that all types of music contain a form of beauty. I know, some people just can't grasp how you can find beauty in the lyrical clusterbang of rappers like Young Thug or 2Chainz but me.... I love that type of shit. I love listening to Reggae music, I love Franki Valle and the Four Seasons, I love Blake Shelton, Eric Church, Lil Wayne, Drake, EDM like Griz, Bassnectar, Skrillex, I just love music. I love how different songs can generate various emotions in each and every person. I love writing. I love writing creatively like short stories or my rap battle material. I also enjoy writing things like my blog and letters to close friends and family. I feel that there are so many words in the English language that can describe people, places, or things and we instead use phrases like "today was pretty good" instead of phrases like "today was exceptional, today was incredible, spectacular, splendid, stellar" any of those! I thoroughly enjoy playing video games with my friends, I enjoy binge watching netflix. I love sitting on the beach at night alone or with a close friend, just staring at the night sky while the noise of the dark blue water mixes smoothly with the breeze of that salty air. I love that shit. I have become an avid reader and I believe it has expanded my horizons mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I love God with all of my heart but the way some people of the church treat others in this world really grinds my gears. I believe that because of how differently we all think the most important thing in relationships (friends, significant others, spouses) is communication. Communication of thoughts, ideas, our past, our future, the things that make us tick, and the things that make us tock. I feel that most problems can be solved with calm and honest communication. I am definitely different. I love the smell of fried food, new books, and new video games about equally. I laugh heartily at my own jokes. I used to believe that people would judge me if I allowed them past all of the walls I had put up. Recently, I said fuck the walls. I've spent the past few months getting rid of all of the barriers. As much as I thought they were holding people back from meeting the real me, they were actually holding me back from meeting the real me. I think snickers peanut butter squares are better than regular snickers. I think that sneaking spinach into everything I eat is a genius idea. I once stopped talking to a girl in high school because she was a Yankees fan. When I have a family all of the children will be Eagles fans. I know, my wife will have some say but SPOILER ALERT, if she marries me she understands what the Eagles mean to me soooooo she will be alright. I know how amazing I am. That's not cockiness, that's just factual. I will never let someones opinion of me change my opinion of myself. If you don't agree with my ideologies, that's cool... I want to know why. I want to know about your thoughts, your ideas, your passions. I want to see things from your side.

Everyone has things about them that make them special. Everyone has hobbies they are passionate about that we may never be able to relate to, that's OK. Quite honestly I don't want friends that are 100 percent like me because I feel that I will never be able to grow with them. My life focus is constant growth and progression.



Thank you all for accepting me for who I am and being beacons of light in my life.

Love you all so damn much

Chris, Heir of Slytherin

"I don't fear nothing but God and weddings, at the top of my paper like I'm startin a heading" - Lil Wayne (I Cant Feel My Face)