So I know I'm a day late on this! Apologies! My day yesterday was super busy! It was packed with things to do and opportunities for me to grow from. I ate clean all day, drank lots of water, went to the gym with my buddy Dee, spent time with my friend Keith, spent time with my friend Michelle, and overall had a pretty fantastic day. Without my parents being home I find my days to be a little more challenging. The ready to eat protein that my parents normally have prepared for me is not here so I actually have to prepare lunch and dinner on my own (I feel like an adult lol). Last night due to my busy schedule I wasn't able to cook until like 1230 haha. I made ground beef and made a nice salad to pair with it. It was great! I also prepped my lunch and prepared myself well for today.
Today's Topic (Yesterdays Topic)- Love and Taking the High Road
So I had someone ask me to talk about taking the high road in a situation. In order to really be able to have that discussion you first have to decide how you feel about the person in question. Do you truly care for them as a person? Or do you have them as a friend merely because they are decent enough to hang out with? Once you establish the level of care you have for the person then you can start to look at the situation with a little more perspective. Was the way that person treated you out of the ordinary or is it a common theme? Do you feel yourself having to "take the high road" often or are they normally very understanding? Obviously the more you think about the person and situation in question and begin to ask yourselves these questions you can begin to determine your course of action. Taking the high road is great in situations where you are dealing with someone you truly care about that may just be having a bad day. Your acceptance and dismissal of their behavior will be appreciated and understood. If you are on the other side of the spectrum where you are just decent friends with the person and they constantly abuse your friendship.... taking the high road is not the best option. There is a tipping point in every friendship/relationship where both parties must decide what they want out of it. Someone who constantly takes advantage of your kindness and understanding does not deserve a continual pass on their bullshit. Respectfully confront them. You will get one of two things. You will get someone who will apologize and actively try to reconcile the situation or you will get someone who lakes the care and understanding to have an adult conversation with you which will allow you to realize exactly where you stand. I tell people all the time that I am brutally honest and its true. I'm not upfront with people to be rude or disrespectful, I am upfront because I feel every person deserves to know where they stand with me. By doing this, I avoid relationships with people that are toxic. If I have a problem with someone and we are able to talk like adults, come to a consensus, and reconcile then I know I have someone who is worth my time, my love, my energy. If I attempt a conversation and they are stand offish, defensive, rude, and unapologetic then I know what that is someone who doesn't deserve me in their life. Relationships are all about communication.
My challenge for y'all today, along with your daily goals I hope you are working on haha :
Communicate in your relationships (friends or S.O.). If you have a problem with someone, determine if what they are doing could potentially be accidental or if it was done with malice. Discuss it with them. Be open with your feelings. "You did this and it made me feel this" "I needed to tell you because I care and want us to continue to be friends even though you did this and it hurt me" These types of things allow both parties to vent feelings and allow for a more clear and open line of communication. I do this all of the time with my friends. My best friend Austin used to not invite me to hang out with our mutual friends, not on purpose but just didn't think anything of it. It bothered me. So I sat him down, told him directly how it made me feel. He apologized and we continued on with our friendship. I've had awkward situations where I had to express my feelings about certain things to someone and again, they understood where I was coming from and we continued on with our friendship. Open and Clear lines of communication allow for relationships of all sorts to truly blossom. I challenge you all to be more open about how you feel, be understanding of others perspective, and be smart enough to know when you should "take the high road".
Love you all so damn much!
Chris, Heir of Slytherin
"Making major changes to the life I'm living, I had no choice I had to prove I made the right decisions" - Drake (Underground Kings)
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